In a conflict, it is rarely only about the topic. One partner may speed up, get louder or push for an answer; the other may go quiet, withdraw or shut down. Both are often trying to feel safe — in opposite ways.
In couples sessions I combine a body-oriented view from Somatic Experiencing® with the Gestalt focus on contact: how you actually meet each other, and where that contact breaks off. The aim is not to decide who is right, but to understand the pattern you create together — and to find other ways of meeting.